The name Don’t Become That Man was created to encourage and facilitate early intervention and prevention programs for men who have concerns about their current controlling behaviour, and even more concerns about how that behaviour might escalate to violence. Following highly publicised and significant domestic violence/abuse events, particularly those involving lethal violence, men have contacted helplines all over Australia looking for help so that their lives don’t end up creating a similar disaster for their partners and families.
Many men said ‘I don’t want to be that man’ when seeking support and intervention. They were genuinely concerned about losing control. These catastrophic events can become pivot points for major change.
It is our intention that this name will encourage men to think about their controlling behaviour and the potential consequences of it getting out of control and make a phone call to us to get assistance.
Experienced phone counsellors will take the calls and provide immediate interventions.
Following these initial contacts where men have engaged with our counsellors, longer interventions and support will be provided to assist men understand their behaviour and make positive changes.
Every step of the way the safety of women and children associated with each man will at the top of the priority list. The aim is to reduce the likelihood of controlling behaviour escalating to violence and lethal violence.
When the name was created, feedback was sought from a broad cross section of people including the domestic and family violence sector, and it has been received very well and is supported as a vehicle for early intervention and prevention.